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Most recent to past

Respondent recently influencing child to see applicant as a poor parent

On March 30th, the respondent said (in front of the child) that I need to stop spouting misinformation when I talked about the possibility of a bacterial cold in conjunction with the (mild) COVID. She said that the only bacterial disease is pneumonia, which is, of course untrue.

The next day, the child confronted me about my vegetarianism even though I just bought him burgers. I gave him many of the good reasons I don't eat meat one of which is that, despite popular information, meat is not a complete or easily-digested protein when beans like soy beans (and other foods) are. I said that there are industry-led lies supporting meat as such, and he said "maybe you are the liar".

Given the close proximity of these events, there is no doubt in my mind that they are related. Also, knowing that I cannot note similar efforts by her to invalidate me as a valid parent because I am not there to see them. Further, I could not see similar efforts previously (as our relationship decayed) because she was co-sleeping with the child and I was effectively disallowed from her bedroom. During the last year of the relationship I experienced full-on attacks (verbal and physical) from the child that were an utter reversal of our life-long relationship so much so I was perplexed. My strategy to reverse this was to post pictures of us when we were 'a team' when he was having nothing but pure fun and he was exploring all his talents.

Applicant's deliberate separation of the child's from his natural talents through online synthesis

It is important to note that he is currently effectively addicted to YouTube and violent online gaming such as FORTNITE, staying up very late to do these, and abandoning his natural, normal talents specifically portraiture.

Use of virtual gaming money as a behavioral reinforcement

Important in this context is that the respondent highly-monetized gaming from the outset to the tune of thousands of dollars, and further reinforced gaming by using the virtual money as reward for behavior in place a normal allowance.

Put effort into keeping me from working

As part of the conversation (that went to text) the respondent made an insistent effort to keep me from working so she would not have to sacrifice family or vacation days off. Despite his COVID, the child was legally allowed to go to school and his cough only increased when the topic came up. She took a family day off, but said it was 'my call' suggesting I did something wrong to her. Much of the child's school absences took this pattern in the previous year preventing me from working when I was prepared to re-enter technology.

Unethical moves prior and after separation by respondent

These widely-recommended 'do's and don'ts' describe are efforts she made or failed to make apparently to punish imagined wrongs by me. All are directly cut from well-developed therapeutic and legal web pages. It is significant is that, as a family psychologist, the respondent should know these things.

Don't start adversarial proceedings before mediation

Her first verbal response to attempted negotiation (when she revealed her separation efforts) was "no compromise". She specifically said that if I didn't comply I would face litigation.

Another source: Litigation is an adversarial (combative) process that inherently escalates conflict and breeds paranoia.

Think about family finances as a whole

She completely drained the joint account and immediately told me that her finances were no longer any of my business.

Don't make commitments before making an agreement

Her separation efforts (especially buying a house) where well under way when she informed me. No effort on my part could dissuade her. I did not oppose the separation, just how it was happening. I knew it would be a financial fiasco, and that it would cause significant suffering for the child, which it did. I also had a plan to let her keep the house, but she refused it.

Another source: Do not change the financial status quo. Depleting joint bank accounts and abusing joint credit accounts are deemed to be “unconscionable” acts and the court can resort to punitive measures against you.

Avoid power struggles and arguments with your spouse or former spouse

Intermittent conflict in the relationship became full-on verbal attacks with significant insults specifically meant to lower my self-esteem and thus alter my thinking to prevent me from seeking financial support from her. The effect was that she made herself a trauma stressor to me (and the child).

She gave me leads to free advice, but the lawyer I talked to (twice) but the lawyer I talked to seemed to take her side unethically on legal matters (apparently) without knowing her. I see this as evidence of contagion.

Do not cut off your spouse financially (and) Do not change the financial status quo.

This was her first act upon separation, and the threatened it during the last parts of the relationship.

Do not make any large purchases until you have a signed separation agreement or court order; doing so will have an impact on your overall financial obligation

She bought a house and (apparently) spent ~$20,000 furnishing it.

Do not move out of the home, unless the situation is completely unbearable or you are afraid for your own safety

I attempted to dissuade her from leaving until the separation could become amicable and the child could adapt. The plan I had previously developed and then suggested was to allow me to move onto a boat allowing us to (literally) 'drift apart' in a way that the child would see us as having different interests rather than seeing his family, and social stability, smashed in in constant conflict - which is what happened.

Another source: Do not leave the family home unless there is a risk of harm to you or your children. Leaving the family home could potentially hurt your claim to an interest in the home. The only reason to leave the home is if you fear for your safety, or if you think your spouse will allege that you have assaulted them.

Start preparing 2-6 months before you separate [and] think clearly and rationally — do not make hasty decisions made out of anger or sadness

She wrote that she acted out of 'anger and frustration'. My belief is that the child's frequent illnesses were stress related and caused by his early comprehension that something bad was about to happen. His apparent illness then prevented me from working.

Raw material

Fewer than 5% of family law cases proceed to trial.

https://www.separation.ca/help-centre/separation/ten-things-to-avoid/

Treat your partner as you would treat a business partner. Be courteous. ... Don't make any significant changes. ... Discuss the various options for pathways to amicable divorce. ... Choose your Family Mediator and/or Lawyers. ... See a Counsellor and/or Doctor. ... Wait to start a new relationship.

https://www.ourfamilywizard.ca/blog/7-tips-starting-healthy-separation

Don’t overspend. As tempting as it can be to treat yourself to something nice while you’re on your own, this is not the time for major purchases or luxury travel.

Get texts that support child was sick with weird stuff while she was preparing sepatation Get finanvcialvrecords to show she was spending while child was sick It all comes down to negotiation.

While you're preparing for divorce, you'll want to be sure to choose a divorce option that emphasizes negotiation over bullying

It’s easy to put all the blame on your spouse, but that’s not fair to either of you. When you assign all the blame to the other person, you are making yourself a victim.

Litigation is an adversarial (combative) process that inherently escalates conflict and breeds paranoia

As much as possible, try to focus on solving problems in a workable, sustainable way that you can live with, rather than focusing on who is “right” or “wrong.”

Seek a therapist to explore potential feelings of anger and injustice instead of seeking to punish your ex through the divorce process

Most recent to past

she manipulated the situation so I would take care of the so she could prepare for the separation which

included spending all our money by secretly buying a house and furnishing it with expensive furniture. Type-casted as a loser by her family

Contagion: Excess moves coordinated with key moments literally liminal. Prevented me from getting an internship to finish my degree by needing support when pregnant because of various disabilities.

Control Inch-wide pattern focused on deleting freewill. Freewill is key to recovery and control being the opposite to prevent freewill. And thus support slavery-type abuse. Which us what I experienced.

Separation topics

Joint venture

Injury

Showing how getting counsel got her to stop the attacks getting her to pay support will have further cooperating effect. Maher her more separate.

Created a situation where it wasvimplosdible tovwirk robbing a rear from by the process.

It was specifically timed for school and before puberty showing planning that the child picked up on showing how she created this stress but did not assist with the outcomes because she was preparing for the separation. She used me and did not really care about the child. She us mercenary and her relationship with the child is visceral. Child us starting to get that, and called her scary.

I would have been able to move forward with career if she had not used this strategy. She must have seen this but opted for pain effect and attacks on self esteem. She gets off onbot - cyclically but she wants to make it a larger part of the cycling. Hence anger and frustration. From texts.

Stay-at-home is an exceedingly vulnerable population. Obviously helping stay-at-home mothers she knew how to do damage. Psychology is mercenary.

She could have paused this given me my dream of living on a boat for a lot less money. Wht didnt she? Her exaggerated belief in causing me pain for control: narcissim.

Why did she think I would not seek support? Lie and stress from threat which she saw in what danny did.

Bad phase fighting the good phase for control Bad sidevbeing the source of anger and attempted cruelty. And stress what terrorists do like experienced but fail and die which is what the want anyway hervsuicidal depression as a child. Fulfilling death wish "by angry ex".

Using pure lie in her separation agreement and in emails to avoid child support without mentioning it.

Deliberately creating an environment if stress.

Working with a misperception I would not be able to fight back must have come from her family's disregard for me.

Unpaid housework which included car an house maintenance that created equity.

Oligarchic femcap as 1/2 of bipolar cycling. Using the downsides of the cycle to create stress. Knowingly leveraging stressvto introduce ptsd.

Had me pay her student loan with presumption that relationship is forever and unconditional love.

Challenge of finding workxafter stay at home.

I was doing ok until the separation agreement started panic disorder. Unable to deal with the level of lie both verbal and in document and emails. Lied specifically about common law having no family rights then saying I did not want support then asking me for support.

Her anger and frustration that she has to be normal. Has to have normal relations rather than emotional dependence on the cuild.

Forcing a court confrontation

Leveraging finances to make the kid more comfortable with her isolating him from me. Same with cosleeping.

Evidence: Things I need for trial

Information sent to Carley Parish

Things you do before and after separation that she did opposite

Evidence of joint venture and unfair gain

Expenses from

Eve trial 3

Teaching him to be selfish SELFUSH area us anti-expression Inly outlrrbus focused through god

Making him picky about exact kind of food I have to compete with industry agreed has the upper hand solution is to travel to prevent industrial times Being slne is not enough if you have a kid.

Reversing empathy she moved to make things as difficult as possible. She did what she saw as required by handing over paperwork but then leveraged those things to inflict pain through control.

Over stressing child with typical twice too much creating exhaustion promoting accident and preventing bonding time. Using over scheduling to manage her bipolar disorder. Preventing human empathic connectionvalso wiping memories and hating blpast. Destroying his past getting him to destroy his art and attack our collaboration Disconjecting is.

My art is to Express this under this type of repression: manic near psychotic.

Saying that the over scheduling is preserving his activities when it has consistantly been too much for him. She pushes activities on him and then convinces him he wants them. Them my desires made to be impossible because of scheduling and are reversed as disruptive of what she wanted and made him think he wants. Money. Manic outcome of bipolar. Forces him into gaming to have a life of his own which she also over promoted. Dialectical synthesis mediated by technology and academic type education to reverse a natural connection. Civilization cure for mania psychodissis. Instead of timing bipolar phasesvto rest sleep bonding and work. Unnatural timing.

Ggo tovfamily thayvwork3dvto separate me from child Made arrt vcollaboration property theft. Wills dad? He is my son

aming addiction warned years ago with monetixibf his computer 500$ at age five kept account because of virtual real estate

Wont help me with discipline issues see mar 26 waking up

Toronto airport

YouTube Roblox and Fortnite addiction reinforced by using as financial reward.

Sporadic during relationship mornings fill on abuse after relationship Why she separated to actualize illness

Her ex was right sehbis evil bit not fulltime bopolar

Finding fault where it doesnt exist. Getting kid to buy into that fault

I did not break up family

Non consensual sadist

Appellate anti woman

Prevent possible trivialization with a several step approach focusing in inluyr tha can include any all the way

Eve sees herself as beneficial when she is defying female misogyny

Her actions ultimately hurts women but help define misogyny in income class and child care terms but 70% of stay-at-home parents are 70%

Leading the neo feminist narrative in defiance of classical feminism problems with wealthy woman approach.

Neo feminism joining the far right and traditional slavery-based oligarchy of academia.

They are all academics and appear to have

Kenya created a new understanding that eclipses my (correct) bipolar explanation. That the family had long planned the bank robbery of my retirement to pay Eve's student loan. This, they, having exceptionally high IQ and dialectical cognitive approaches were able to quickly calculate the could trick me into paying her student loan. How did they figure this out so quickly? Think about it: student loans generate professional paychecks, and more important, excess 'liberal' retirement plans that exceed teaching paychecks. Thank you Kenya.

New trial notes Important thing is that I put 14 years into caring for Eve. Despite her shift towards aggression, I am still in that mode in terms of emotional and financial support, and physical caring. She shifted from being a genuine loving partner to a cyclic pattern of emotional, financial and physical abuse. I successfully kept our small family happy and healthy. I productively maintained exceedingly high standards of nutrition, education, recreation, and life satisfaction. I was, and still am, focused on thriftful support at the expense of my own career and life satisfaction. A major factor she fails to mention is her hearing disability which kept me from leaving her alone during her pregnancy and when our son was an infant. She will deny this saying her hearing is 90% eith a hearing aid when it is in the low percentages.

At very least, the 9 years if support I provided for her needs to be reversed. Her view of me is that I was a nearly-parasitic dependent. I paid all capital expenses (cars and house), maintained them, and reduced other expenses to double our equity, which is why we had the equity for a good life.

despite the challenges of being immigrants and Eve's psychological shift to antagonism. My primary evidence

Her actions in the separation show her inability to make beneficial financial decisions. Her current success is based on selfishness she that she rationalizes through lies she documented in emails. These emails are an extension of the conflictive approach she developed after she experienced professional success. She became a completely different person to me. Her being a psychologist seems to contradict this shift, but her area of psychology is high-proceduralized, and psychology in general can be mercenary.

A factor that I had not considered that came out in my interview with counsel is that there appears to have been a prior plan to put my retirement savings towards her doctoral student loan. Thus forces me to face a probable fact that I naively believed that her relationship with me was motivated by her desire to take my money, time and energy to build her career and have a child, and the separate from me when she was financially secure. There is small but significant evidence that her family provided her with this plan. It is not uncommon in academia.

This situation closely parallels the supporting Jenkins case except that the male partner paid child support prior to their trial. Eve ignores the need for child support. She does not care that I am forced to keep the house at 45 degrees Fahrenheit, which makes the child not want to live here except that he wants to spend time with me. All across Blake's life is her financial dominance over me. The situation she has created forces him to see her as generous and me stingy. The one area I can show generosity has been fast food after school (which I dont personally like) and she has attacked that in writing as an imposed rule.

These are behavioral economic strategies as used in marketing that have their roots and methodologies in psychology.

The absolute truth is that Blake has had an exceptionally difficult time since Eve announced that she bought a house and for months prior to that suggesting he had prior knowledge something bad would happen. She had been co-sleeping with him giving him a view of her activity through emails and social media which was hostile toward me. Difficulties in Blake's and my relationship arose for no reason except for her cyclic hostility especially in the mornings. Blake and I had a log standing collaborative artistic relationship that inexplicably converted into hostility such that he said I was stealing his art. He was too you to create intellectual property ideas and Eve gave evidence of enjoying thos conflict. There is small evidence of influences towards this inform her family.

There is evidence of cyclic dysfunction with evidence in the emails. There were problems all along and I coped in various ways. On a trip to the Western US she had a breakdown in the Toronto airport Canadian customs area. She became irrational and i did all that I could do to nm prevent her having conflict with the customs agent. When I suggested she take a deep breath she became verbally violent. I was frightened as we had very young Blake with us. At that time I concluded bipolar disorder. I learned Elon Musk outed he has this and unlocked at how he manages. The answer is relentless scheduling of business activities. I developed a strategy if supporting in a way that her own cycling would coordinate her better phase with her work schedule and then allow her to dlip bbn into a non-beneficial phase. I did this witjoutvtelling her, but at a time when she was verbally assaulting me (following me from room to room while yelling at me) I told her about my strategy. I could not escape the argument and outed at that point my strategy that I had developed for her. She held her phone with the numbers "911" dialed in saying that I had done something bad to Blake by saying this. I kept quiet and the event passed. Two days later she asked me what I had said saying she wanted to learn from that. I told her everything and I believe she implemented the ideas. I asked her why she threatened me with the call to the police, and she said the single word "control".

The evidence for her cyclic self-control issue is in the emails wher she says not to talk to her in the mornings, and then not to talk to her directly about separation issues "especially in front of Blake" because of her vulnerability to lose self control and become verbally violent.

It is important that I long felt she had this kind of issue and part of reason for (nearly) getting my psychology masters was to find a supportive solution for it, which I believe she ultimately implemented just prior to the sepatation. This gives evidence of psychological support in the relationship (which is common but hard to quantify), and explains her exceptionally poor strategy in the separation where she directly reversed every well-supported reccomendation for entering into and following through with a separation. Especially important here is that she is a family psychologist at Family Plus. She has to know about these recommendations as she has seen many families in these situations which she confirmed in discussions about child care sharing.

I was locked into the stay-at-home role until we until we were able to get after school care from Go-go. Previously, the child did very badly at early daycare, and then showed separation anxiety probably because of frightening situations he had witnessed in the South End. I had to stay with him at the cooperative preschool and wait for his school bus until he got an afterschool spot. At this point I began working to restart my high-paying computer career. I found that nothing in my field had changed except innovations that extended work I had done previously. By late Spring I was ready to apply bot things started getting strange with Blake requiring continual visits to urgent care. They mostly indicated underlying anxiety, and soon after the separation was announced I likewise experienced anxiety because of the deceptive and threatening strategies implemented by Eve. Blake held his head up, but during his early nights with me, he experienced traumatic crying fits through the entire nights that I believe ultimately changed his personality firm always exceedingly happy to depressed periods that eve will not acknowledge. He is fully emerrsed into often violent online gaming and cynical and sarcastic videos. I am hoping this trial will enable me to bring him back to natural life.

If we've had followed the recommendations for sepatation the transition would been simple and less traumatic especially for the child. She chose deception conflict and denial if basic family fact and law. Every statement about me is lie especially with respect to my support for her which has created a (well studied) need for support from her. My employment challenges are age and the long period of unemployment. There is every reason for me to believe that I will live well past 90 years, and hope to work close to that age. But employment for me is in mo way well assured, and frightening yo.me is that the money Eve is forcing me to pay to support the child will be money I wont have when I reach the end of life. J will die in poverty despite my best efforts to save for the future. When I told her this in the first days of the separation she told Blake "we don't let dahdah die in poverty". Soon after I got her separation agreement that specifically says in many different ways that she intends to.

She could have helped with optical and dental cost by delaying (as I begged her) or prior planning as reccomended. But she refused. Her first two words when I initially attempted negotiation were "no compromise".

The was no possibility of me working at a scheduled job because he

Enforced poverty Making bad conditions Nodded with approval when I said the conditions are worse as most of the house is cold

Leaned in support of metoo and femen when I talked. Then showed approval when a leading local radio fem grabbed a girls face and suck-kissed her mouth.

Leveraging bias as in racism with distinct pronoun lying issues

Kid is sabotaging stuffed toilet with wipies.

Kid was continually hitting me in face.

Tooth nipple rot operation kept might breast feeding

She need to 3scape sanity to get back to oligarchic family

Eve trial 2

We are here because: I was a stay-at-home father. I was forced into the position which I accepted because the toddler needed a full-time parent, and later on, had security concerns based on what he had seen in the South End. I was forced to continue as a stay-at-home dad because we could not get a spot at an after-school program. In the last year, we got a spot, and I began to rebuild my career in computers. I was ready to apply for jobs when things became difficult. Blake was continually staying home from school apparently because of stress issues. He and I were frequently at urgent care while Eve was secretly planning the separation by buying a new house and furniture.

We came to Canada with the intent of collaborating on a youth care project based on animal therapy. I had a list of life goals that were alll possible in Canada including: finishing my master s degree, being successful in a care-type career, bonding with a fishing community, bonding with a first nations band, buying a manageable saling yacht (as I had before we moved to Canada). This nearly became possible making my life complete, but all of it was canceled for the benefit of the respondent s career. I opted to restart my computer career and found an affordable sailboat, but Blakeès frequent illness and stress (probably from the knowledge that something bad was about to happen and the separation prevented that.

It may be hard to understand, but sailing is a culture and an identity that I had developed as a teenager working in a ship museum. Being that, I realized (through meditation) that it is core to my personality and needs to be rehabilitated. With my experience, the costs would be much less than a used car for instance.

Another time investment was the considerable corrosion resistance I added to the car she took. It was a weeks-long process involving innovative chemicals that likely doubled the value of the car, as Canadian cars are mostly recycled because of rust.

This is an example of my contribution to the family finances. A simplified view of accounting is that income and expenses determine equity - what a family has to spend (or save). Despite income below the LICO, we had a very good life because I was able to more than halve expenses doubling equity. As our tenant manager, benefits included a second apartment, control over the property allowing for car repair, for instance.

Included in the family equity strategy was family capital investment first in a new car in 2010 when we came to Canada, and then a house specifically intended to be Blake s 'rock' for security, which it still is, but more so given the current circumstances. Another was the newer car and the investment into corrosion proofing. Further was continued support in this car which included forcing the dealship to find artificual intelligence issues in the transmission which took considerable effort to diagnose and force a correction.

As her income increased (partly enabled by my being a stay-at-home dad), we had expensive travel opportunities. All these benefits have been reversed by the respondent apparently on purpose as she specifically reversed every common recommendation for both preparing for separation and following it. The outcomes were levels of stress that prevented what would be a difficult job search, and greatly increased expenses. She continued to use me as the primary caregiver with associated expenses largely driven by the fact that she deliberately spoils Blake in the financial sense including computer game expenses, restaurant food, and high-fashion clothes. These practices reversed my intent and child-raising strategy which was largely based on my life goals enumerated above. Additionally, I hoped to continue religious attachment and a traditional approach that includes a combination of thrift and integrity resulting in increased equity. Contradicting my hard work, he practiced more now-less later approaches and had tantrums if I used the word share.

My hopes for Blake in these contexts include emotional and financial resilience in what is an increasingly volatile world. His becoming transgender increases my sense of urgency, especially in that the respondent seeks precisely the opposite effects in him: emotional reliance on consumer items such as computer gaming and fancy clothes. Social experts suggest that it is not the money, but love that counts. My experience has been the opposite, as is the world s, in the sense of behavioral economics that describes consumer marketing. Included is a log of complaints by him for the less comfortable conditions he is has to endure because of my financial security issues combined (of getting old) with my increased expenses.

Connected to this is my difficulty in disciplining Blake. My strategy has not been to use the common reward and punishment strategy (used by the respondent) but from to self-reliance and -discipline based on what he wants from life and what he learns from the environment.

The respondent specifically reversed all the recommended procedures

Even when I described a potential bright spot, she would tell me I should be grateful that she made me Canadian and gave me s child.

Victimization glued on by bipolar disorder - took psychology partly for this - figured out the specifics through Elon musk - how kindness / not empathic cycles glue on control - why psychology is mercenary

Cycles of control and non-control using high IQ show control in manipulating the child to think less of me - but low self-control when deciding to leave and buy a house without comprehending the risk of child support let alone the rule of 65

Psyc is bogus in that there is no way to heal the scars just create temporary improvement that benefits empirical testing but does not solve the problem

Child discipline - things eve is doing to create a favorable bias for herself to ultimately take the child. Given I heard language and actions turning the child against me leveraging co-sleeping - using finances to create specifically poverty. (Which I can survive but I am by far the poorest person in his life because I was a stay at home dad - the transgender issue is getting him to reject his former feminine identity - he is losing memories of our significant bonding esp wrt to sailing - print happy time pictures at the library - we had really good times and she sought to end - most likely she will seek to create an image of me doing bad when things were great outside of her psychologically brutal attacks against my infrequent requests for beneficial but simple changes. For Example, car.

Discipline issue - kindest attempts have decayed in accusations of abuse. Her view of me is an abuser which she will instantly validate with slanted information from the child.

The house is his which he argued against until recently obviously with influence from the respondent. Now he agrees and says he can do what he wants.

Finances Child frequently complains about lesser conditions

Lost learning french Took away career and boat She stole my life

Plan was so stupid that it had to involve others

Unpaid house work

She is making him mean

Her kindness us for pay, I do it as an obligation to the world

Breakup was empirical put the kid through pure terror. Therapy as a cure all is pure fraud.

Gaslighting moving things around to create self doubt.

Fir the sake of the children Stresses that things need to be equal and kept the same as much as possible.

Coping with my coping strategy. Avoiding conflict putting my mind in different places made it hard to take full responsibility. She isolated me from boll paying etc so I had no idea what the financial facts were.

Deliberate stressors Use of legalism as a stressor threatvof law suit to get house

Could not do woodwork on house. Delaying getting a tenant.

What made me stay with her, commitment to the child. He broke down hard and has had periods of meanness since then.

Finances: waste of food. Heating bill to heat whole house for kid.

Get him to help me work with people of low income to show him value of thrift. He is in high food waste mode.

Always thinking about the others I need to think about myself My mother warned me early on but I trusted. Eve has long convinced me that I need to think about her. In the end she lied about senior income inheritance. Her happiness and positivity comes from self fulfillment She leads the child into a spoiled life of greed and waste. My challenge is to halt that so I can

Challenges are to reconnect from disassociating from saint John issues and relationship abuse. To restore the the child to the natureally-based reality he was the best of from the alternate purely violent gaming reslity.

Psychological strategies. Psych is mercenary and relies on dialectical manipulation and didactic control to achieve psychological change positively.

Health insur dental vision

Had success in US in art, abandoned plan to leverage trucking to do homeless support where I am 13 years later

Eve trial We are here because I was a stay at home father. I was forced into the position which I accepted because the toddler needed a full time parent, and later on, had security concerns based on what he had seen in the SouthEnd.

We came with the intent of a traumatized children and youth home. This and all other benefits I had including my masters degree eroded until I had none.

Even when I described a potential bright spot, sha would tell me i should be grateful that she made me Canadian and gave me s child.

Victimization glued on by bipolar disorder - took psyc partly for this - figured out the specifics through Elon musk - how kindness / unempathic cycles glue on control - why psychology is mercenary

Cycles of control and non control using high IQ show control in manipulating the child to think less of me - but low self control when deciding to leave and buy a house without comprehending the risk of child support let alone the rule of 65

Psyc is bogus in that there is no way to heal the scars just create temporary improvement that benefits empirical testing but does not solve the problem

Child discipline - things eve is doing to create a favorable bias for herself to ultimately take the child. Given I heard language and actions turning the child against me leveraging co-sleeping - using finances to create the specifically poverty. (Which I can survive but I am by far the poorest person in his life because I was a stay at home dad - transgender issue is getting hom to reject his former feminine identity - he isnlisong memories of our significant bondindind esp wrt to sailing - print happy time pictures at library - we had really good times and she sought to end - most likely she will seek to create an image of me doing bad when things were great out side of her psychologically brutal attacks against my infrequent requests for beneficial but simple changes. Example, car.

Discipline issue - kindest attempts have decayed in accusations of abuse. He view of me is an abuser which she will instantly validate with slanted information from the child.

The house is his which he argued against until recently obviously with influence from the respondent. Now he agrees and says he can do what he wants.

Finances Child frequently complains about lesser conditions

Eve log

Transmission support Date (old car was backup if needed)

Feb 1 Drove in from Prince of Wales to start her car told her to buy new battery. No compensation for this or any other service.

Feb 8 Blake sick kept me from errands Blake said he wants to be at mom's because if faster computer and comfy bed.

Feb 9-11 Blake with me sick

Feb 25 Blake with me sick Eve has Netflix and gift boxes from japan.

Mar 2-3rd Sick w me

March 9 Blake hit me in face - often if I raise my hand near him coincidentally he jumps back

Mar 10 Blake is literally insulting me because he has a futon here and a comfy bed at home. Said mom is a psychologist who helps people and i do nothing. Refuses to go to sleep without a fight (often). Physically fights with me for phone (often). Mar 11 came to house without response from me obsessively texting took child away as child wanted to game on better computer

Mar 19 (aprox) Blake said that Eve is a better parent because she is a psychologist who helps people and I have no job.

Mar 21 Blake seemed OK when I took his things out to the car. He said he wanted to play a little more on the computer, which I allowed. But then after I put his stuff in the car, Eve called me into the house and I found him crying. She prompted him to complain that I was previously yelling at him (which was pure lie) and that I was putting up his art without his permission. There was some discussion where I pointed out that we were previously tightly bonded and that we collaborated on art.

She then said (in front of Blake) that she does not want a the relationship dynamic forming with Blake that formed with her and me which was caused by my being controlling (which is purely false). She was inserting into his mind (while I was there) that I have a personal behavior that forced her to separate from me (making the separation my fault but curable by her or similar therapist). (There is more to the situation but not enough time to describe in precise detail.)

This is an exceedingly complicated construct that she synthesized in a vacuum to rationalize abuses by her towards me. Here she is (in front of me) successfully attempting to force a separation between me and the child based the obvious fact that I have a personality and (like everyone) need respect. Her goal (I believe) is to assure that continue to function within very narrow behaviors that enable (among things) her denial of legally-required support.

This different than parental alienation in that her effort attempts to maintain the family in ways she could not when she was living with me. (Reasonably, I hope this trial can help me put as much distance between her and me as possible so I can go on with life.)

It seems exceedingly likely that she is attempting this and similar psychological stratagems as I am obviously never there. In my experience, an expectation of retaliation is expected and is actually necessary as acceptance allows the synthesized and maladapting narration to be accepted as truth. My response is to a) remain passive to 'let it go' and b) use negation as much as possible, which is to say 'pull away' from her to deny her the satisfaction that she is achieving what she desired in the relationship which is pathological control. I have seen defensive responses to these kinds of strategies described as "Freudian defensiveness". Eve was trained in psychodynamics, which is the major evolution of Freudian psychoanalysis.

When driving home after this incident, I told Blake that the issues between us 'where no big deal' in the scheme of things. We all get over that stuff because we love each other as family. I also told him that exaggerating minor issues was 'bratty'. It is exceedingly difficult to deal with these expert stratagems primarily because, when successive as they have been, there is intense stress. Then there is the question of how to counter stratagems that have been recently synthesized, for which there is no documentation because they are original to the respondent. There is no word to describe them except possibly excessive 'gas lighting', which exceedingly poor terminology to begin with.

Now there is another exceedingly important part of this. Even under normal circumstances, a usually-normal person might react to this kind of psychological threat by becoming defensive in a violent way. I have long believed she has attempted to leverage stratagems like this to push me to the point of violence. She failed in this, but there is the another possibility, which is that the suicidal depression of her childhood is back in the form of an attempted 'suicide by angry ex'. I think this is a valid concern, but I do not believe I can do anything about it.